The Partner Assault Response (PAR) Program is a psycho-educational course and counselling program designed to help participants stop their violent, abusive and controlling behaviours towards their partners. It aims to help clients to take responsibility and ownership for their behaviours. This program is also referred to as the Domestic Abuse Program (DAP) or the Domestic Involvement Prevention Program (DIPP) in some courts.
The Partner Assault Response (PAR) program is designed to help individuals who have challenges relating to their partners. Often, these individuals are charged with domestic assault. This program specializes in counselling and educating offenders who are ordered to attend the PAR program. PAR programs aim to enhance victim safety and hold offenders accountable for their behaviour.
The 12-session long program gives offenders the opportunity to examine their beliefs and attitudes towards domestic abuse, and to learn non-abusive ways of resolving conflict. The PAR program is usually completed within 1-2 months, when completed on a one-on-one basis as opposed to a small group. However, in extreme cases, we can accommodate a shorter period of time for its completion.
Although this program is called Partner Assault Response Services (PARS), the approach taken is more general covering life skills management.
Meets the requirements of the Ontario Legal System (Courts), subject to the approval of the relevant legal authorities. The PARS Program offered by the Anger Management Centre of Toronto, Inc. is not a provincially mandated or accredited program. Clients can only proceed to complete the program after receiving approval from the Crown Attorney, probation officer or police officer affiliated with their case. Please note this requirement for the PARS Program, although not applicable to other programs.
Fast tracking, sometimes referred to as the compressed program, means that the client will complete the twelve (12) 1-hour individual psychological counselling sessions during the course of one week. Homework will be assigned in addition to the face-to-face, individual counselling; these are normally completed outside of the therapeutic sessions. A report of completion will then be issued to the client. The content and processes of the program are the same as offered at different agencies, but client is treated individually and seen more frequently during the duration of the course.
"Every man, for the sake of the great blessed Mother in Heaven, and for the love of his own little mother on earth, should handle all womankind gently and hold them in all Honour." - poet Alfred, Lord Tennyson
Contents of the Program
Introduction to PAR, based on Duluth Model for treating domestic violence, as an early intervention program.
The aim of this topic is to help you to understand how completing the program will help you to change from power and control way of behaving to equality in your relationships.
Using intimidation to Non-Threatening Behavior
Upon completion, you will be able to initiate rational talking and acting so that your partner feels safe and comfortable expressing and doing things.
Using Emotional Abuse to Respect
Upon completion, you will be able to listen to your partner without judging and be able to value opinions as part of being respectful.
Using Isolation to Trust and Support
Upon completion, you will be able to support your partner’s goals, respect your partner’s rights, friends, activities and opinions that are important for a trusting relationship.
Minimizing, Denying and Blaming to Honesty and Accountability
Upon completion, you will be able to assume responsibility for yourself, to understand past use of different forms of violence and to admit being wrong as well as communicating openly and honestly.
Using Children to Responsible Parenting
Upon completion, you will be able to share parental responsibilities while being a positive non-violent role model for your children and your partner.
Using Male Privilege to Shared Responsibility
Upon completion, you will be able to share responsibilities by mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work and making decisions together are part of the couple’s decision.
Using Economic Abuse to Economic Partnership
Upon completion, you will be able to make financial decisions together with your partner. You will make sure that both of you benefit from financial arrangements.
Using Coercion and Threats to Negotiation and Fairness
Upon completion, you will be able to experience mutually satisfying resolution of conflicts, to accept changes and be willing to compromise.
Conclusion and Final Assessment
This program involves attending a total of 12, 2 hour counselling sessions covering the above topics, in addition to homework assignments. It can also be completed within a shorter period of time.
Frequently Asked Questions
How does it work?
How long will the PARS Program take to complete?
Does taking the PARS Program mean that I am admitting guilt?
No it does not. The PARS Program is a psycho-educational program designed to help you learn about factors that contribute to unhealthy relationships, especially as it relates to power and control.