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When most of us hear the word enemies, we probably think immediately of all the people who have actually hurt or harmed us. But there are also tricky adversaries (obstacles) that we all have to contend with—our own inner enemies. These are inner qualities such as anger, greed, lust and ego. Ego refers to excessive self-importance and the belief tha...

Anger is a very pervasive problem in our society and the levels of anger displayed by some individuals seem to be spiraling out of control. As a society, we pay the price for uncontrolled anger in the form of broken families, medical expenses and law enforcement bills. The first step is to take responsibility for your angry behavior rathe...

"When you get to tell someone off, you might feel pretty good for a while, but somehow the sense of righteous indignation and hatred grows, and it hurts you. It’s as if you pick up hot coals with your bare hands and throw them at your enemy. If the coals happen to hit him, he will be hurt. But in the meantime, you are guaranteed to be burned."

Many persons believe that in a conflictual situation, they can control others by using excessive anger and that this is a permanent solution to the conflict. This may apply in the short term if the other person becomes fearful as in the case of a child, and caves in to your demands but it is generally not true in the long term.

Many people feel powerless in managing their anger. However, by taking appropriate action, you could change this.

We are constantly talking to ourselves either verbally or in our minds.

Both research and experience show that when persons with anger problems change the way they talk to themselves, their anger level drops and they often regain control of themselves.

The following is a letter I wrote in response to a question from a client.

First of all, I want to say that anger is a very pervasive problem in our society and the level of anger in some individuals seems to be spiraling out of control. As a society, we pay a huge cost for uncontrolled anger in the form of broken families, medical bills and entanglements with the law.

The word management means to work upon or alter for a specific purpose or goal.

Some Situations/Conditions that could lead to anger

Anger is fundamentally caused by the way a person thinks or perceives certain situations. The following factors could serve as triggers, resulting in anger:

Anger is one of the major problems of our times. Recent research indicates that out of control or unresolved anger is the root cause of many anti-social behaviours in our society. Examples of these are partner assault, gambling, and child abuse.

Anger is a natural emotion that we as humans commonly experience. All emotions are energy sources, so anger can be seen as an energy source that produces movement towards certain goals.